A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. ~Washington Irving
R.I.P ROSALIA GADDI HOUTCHENS
SEPTEMBER 4, 1955 to OCTOBER 18, 2009
If anything i learned from my mom, is that happiness consists of living a simple life. Your priorities, are God, and your FAMILY....everything after that just falls into place. You hold onto your blessings, the good and the bad, and you go on with the ride. Every situation you are given, you pray to God.
In life everyone endures there own struggles. Unfortunately, some harder then others, but in the end, its all the same. My mom battled with breast cancer for almost 5+ years...from the very beginning she was at stage four, with matastisis to the bone, bone marrow, brain and liver. She fought long, and hard... and the serious side affects didnt hit until the end of last year, when she started getting transfusions...... and they found that the cancer was active in her brain...Even, though my mom keep going.....when she lost her hair after her radiation to her brain, my mom still insisted on cleaning the house, and going out. She would make it to 8 o'clock mass every single day. with her colorful head scarves/rags/hats. And we would have breakfast, or go to the 99cent store, or dollar tree...Or she would ask to just drive around and go to the Blessed Sacrament in Riverbank, or visit the sisters of the HolyCross... While Im driving, she then would ask about my bf, and want to talk to him, or Telling me how she no longer wants dogs as grandchildren...or about me being a nurse, or continuing my education./// Then wen we come home, after we clean the rooms, or fold laundry, she would always tell me to rest.... She hated being in bed... always getting up to check on us... and make sure our bags and rooms are maintained. popping up out of nowhere... Even as she got weaker, her stubborness still would insist on her independence...
As the cancer progressed, we werent able to do all those things anymore.... she stayed in bed more, and ate less... then talked less...and slept more.
This year, i was able to spend a lot of time, being with her, learning more about her. I couldnt believe that in the 25 years, how much i didnt know, about someone who knows soo much about me.... She genuinely cared about everyone, it didnt matter how long she knew you, what you looked like, where you are from. She enjoyed the presence of people, entertaining them.. She was so humble, and she enjoyed living life simply. She would always pray that God would take care of us, before we prayed for Her. She never put herself first.... I learned that anything she ever did, she always wanted to include the family, AND make sure that everyone is provided for. I spent so many years trying not to be her, only to find that, the more i push the more she pulls... and the more i become like her...
Not only is my mom always going to be in my heart, she is My heart. Her caring compassion, her innocence, trustworthyness in people, her ability to love through hurt, and her unfailing faith in God .Thats all things she instilled in me, and im sure in my brothers and sisters too... as well as touching the many people all over the place.
She always loved angels, she enjoyed collecting them.. and NOW, she's our angel.
Its only been a day, and I miss you mom...
Thank you for everything you've done for us all.
You can rest now.
i love you....
R.I.P ROSALIA GADDI HOUTCHENS
SEPTEMBER 4, 1955 to OCTOBER 18, 2009
If anything i learned from my mom, is that happiness consists of living a simple life. Your priorities, are God, and your FAMILY....everything after that just falls into place. You hold onto your blessings, the good and the bad, and you go on with the ride. Every situation you are given, you pray to God.
In life everyone endures there own struggles. Unfortunately, some harder then others, but in the end, its all the same. My mom battled with breast cancer for almost 5+ years...from the very beginning she was at stage four, with matastisis to the bone, bone marrow, brain and liver. She fought long, and hard... and the serious side affects didnt hit until the end of last year, when she started getting transfusions...... and they found that the cancer was active in her brain...Even, though my mom keep going.....when she lost her hair after her radiation to her brain, my mom still insisted on cleaning the house, and going out. She would make it to 8 o'clock mass every single day. with her colorful head scarves/rags/hats. And we would have breakfast, or go to the 99cent store, or dollar tree...Or she would ask to just drive around and go to the Blessed Sacrament in Riverbank, or visit the sisters of the HolyCross... While Im driving, she then would ask about my bf, and want to talk to him, or Telling me how she no longer wants dogs as grandchildren...or about me being a nurse, or continuing my education./// Then wen we come home, after we clean the rooms, or fold laundry, she would always tell me to rest.... She hated being in bed... always getting up to check on us... and make sure our bags and rooms are maintained. popping up out of nowhere... Even as she got weaker, her stubborness still would insist on her independence...
As the cancer progressed, we werent able to do all those things anymore.... she stayed in bed more, and ate less... then talked less...and slept more.
This year, i was able to spend a lot of time, being with her, learning more about her. I couldnt believe that in the 25 years, how much i didnt know, about someone who knows soo much about me.... She genuinely cared about everyone, it didnt matter how long she knew you, what you looked like, where you are from. She enjoyed the presence of people, entertaining them.. She was so humble, and she enjoyed living life simply. She would always pray that God would take care of us, before we prayed for Her. She never put herself first.... I learned that anything she ever did, she always wanted to include the family, AND make sure that everyone is provided for. I spent so many years trying not to be her, only to find that, the more i push the more she pulls... and the more i become like her...
Not only is my mom always going to be in my heart, she is My heart. Her caring compassion, her innocence, trustworthyness in people, her ability to love through hurt, and her unfailing faith in God .Thats all things she instilled in me, and im sure in my brothers and sisters too... as well as touching the many people all over the place.
She always loved angels, she enjoyed collecting them.. and NOW, she's our angel.
Its only been a day, and I miss you mom...
Thank you for everything you've done for us all.
You can rest now.
i love you....
In one moment, Life can change.
One life, can affect a lot of people,
One good memory, can spark a smile,
One good smile, can open a heart,
Open hearts, can get hurt easily,
Hurt brings about sadness,
One moment of sadness, can bring forgiveness,
Forgiveness, can bring you peace.
Finding peace, allows you to find happiness.
One life, can affect a lot of people,
One good memory, can spark a smile,
One good smile, can open a heart,
Open hearts, can get hurt easily,
Hurt brings about sadness,
One moment of sadness, can bring forgiveness,
Forgiveness, can bring you peace.
Finding peace, allows you to find happiness.
There is a saying, that it is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness.
ReplyDeleteThough our world has become colder and darker without her, I am comforted that the light set ablaze in this world by your mom's simple, genuine love of life and of people lives on in her family -- and especially in you.
I realize now that, as she was growing closer to God, she was growing closer to us... and us to her, as well.
We are all born with a God-shaped hole in our hearts and a longing for something more than ourselves. Now, I feel that that hole has grown a bit more...
But your words also bring me comfort, reminding me that while we have lost so much, we have gained even more by having your mom's presence in our lives.
I pray that she finds peace and comfort now in the arms of the Father.
We love you and we'll see you soon.